Description of the sociotype Dostoevsky-psychologist according to Slinko. Quiet pool: ethical-intuitive introvert

Quiet, friendly, even meek - such epithets come to mind when it comes to girls like DOSTOYEVSKY. The face is often with wide cheekbones, a graceful chin and large, radiant eyes. There are also narrow faces, very youthful until very late years. The look of representatives of this type is soft and compassionate. An unobtrusive, kind smile often lingers on their face for a long time. This girl is always ready to listen and support others, and if necessary, give quiet comfort and inspire hope.

Women of this type are very feminine and delicate, modest and even shy. But that doesn't mean they're spineless. Not at all. They have a special, meek, stoic manner to accept all the hardships and blows of fate.

They have a very ephemeral body, often there is a slight stoop. They dress quite modestly, trying not to attract much attention to themselves. And with age, and in general, they begin to choose mostly something dark and inconspicuous.

School life allows them from childhood to begin to develop obedience and diligence in themselves. These are quiet, diligent girls who will never argue with teachers. And even if they are unfairly given grades, they do not grumble, explaining the situation to themselves in some way so that the authority of the teacher does not suffer.

In the class, this girl, as a rule, has a couple of best friends, with whom she stands at breaks against the wall and in a quiet voice, with dignity, discusses all the events of school life. She does not like to gossip, she tries to evaluate everything objectively, so that there are no guilty or offended. This is one of the most decent girls in the class.

Humanitarian inclinations are manifested in girls of this type very clearly. They are well versed in the vicissitudes of the personal life of all the heroes of literary works, which are studied under the program, and write the best essays in the class. In addition, they read a lot in addition to the program, write poetry and prose themselves, as a result of which their character acquires strongly romanticized features. This is, in fact, one of the most dreamy girls in the class.

Representatives of this type for the most part do not like to engage in sports. But in childhood and youth they like to dance. This occupation corresponds to their romantic, lyrical mood. And, most often, they prefer ballroom or classical dances.

Girls like DOSTOYEVSKY always enter the institute, because they study well at school, often graduating with a gold medal, and in general they make the most pleasant impression on the examiners with their excellent education, ability to behave with dignity, quiet voice and good knowledge. But it would be better if this girl chooses a humanitarian field for herself than goes to study as an engineer.

If you thought that girls of this type never have fun in companies, then you are wrong. But the company should be its own, where they are noticed, loved and appreciated. There, this quiet flower opens in all its glory towards friendship, love and good, warm fun. Keep in mind that she will not stay in friends where they swear or abuse alcohol next to her. She has her own, and very high demands on others. The man she dreams of must be correct, reliable, intelligent and self-confident.

When the girl DOSTOYEVSKY becomes your wife, know that a quiet angel now lives in your home. However, he has such a developed sense of duty that he will not disdain to clean, wash and cook. Of course, she does not like to cook, this is not what she sees as her calling. But she will never leave her family without food. And if one of the family members is so picky that she wants to eat only freshly prepared food, she will cook three times a day. That's how she's made.

She also cares about the health of her relatives, and therefore diligently writes down in a special notebook (which she will keep all her life) not only culinary recipes, but also the composition of herbal preparations, as well as the most necessary medicines that can be useful for certain diseases.

Not only the husband, but also the parents on both sides, and the children will be embraced by her warm attitude. She will find time for everyone, an opportunity to help, as well as friendly words for the occasion. She takes care of the children. Moreover, he does it with pleasure and all his life. She knows everything about their mental structure, about the problems of their inner world, makes sure that they study well, strives to comprehensively develop their abilities, educates them gently but persistently. But it is difficult for her to make serious decisions when it is necessary to place a child in a school or choose an institute for him. However, this applies not only to problems related to children. So it's best to take care of identifying important milestones in the development of your family. She will gladly submit to you.

From life: "When I read E. Bern's "Games People Play", I thought, what kind of fairy tale corresponded to my life scenario in childhood? And I remembered that when I was little, my favorite fairy tale was about a princess, who didn’t have to do anything, because by magic everything around her was done by itself. So I dreamed about this, so that someone would come and do everything that needed to be done, and I wouldn’t have to do anything all my life ".

By the way, this quiet, warm, domestic woman is one of the most obedient wives. She loves her family with an even, warming love. But make sure that her entire spiritual resource is not wasted on girlfriends who exploit your wife as a psychotherapist. She herself, of course, will never refuse them. Out of compassion. Therefore, it will be right if you take matters into your own hands and somewhat limit the flow of those who want to receive a psychotherapeutic session and useful advice from her.

Women of this type always show themselves very well in any job. They are friendly and responsible, never quarrel and do not demand anything for themselves, hoping that sooner or later they will be noticed and appreciated. They also consciously avoid getting involved in intrigues, spreading gossip and discussing someone behind their back.

They make wonderful teachers, editors, proofreaders, librarians, psychologists. They are good wherever you need to show patience and compassion for people. There are times when they even work as engineers, but, according to their own estimates, this work does not bring them much satisfaction. However, since they are always stoic, they do not complain about it.

I need someone to pray for.
Think simple ant
Suddenly I wanted to fall into scissors,
Believe in your charm
From a song by Bulat Okudzhava

The young man Dostoevsky is modest, tactful and delicate, a great lover of reading and, in general, an intellectual. Most often there is an asthenic physique. He has a quiet voice, a meek look, an affectionate smile and an elevated train of thought. He likes to wear long hair, but according to modern fashion, he takes it in a ponytail. He does not pay due attention to clothes, believing that this is not the main thing in life, so he is usually dressed very modestly. Although occasionally there are real dandies among men of this type in expensive wide-brimmed hats and long coats.

When you talk to DOSTOYEVSKY, it seems that conscience itself looks into your eyes. He has the gift of understanding people. He is sympathetic, able to empathize with other people's sorrows and misfortunes, console, sharing your bad mood. You can trust him - he will never go against the interests of people close to him.

Being complaisant and meek, at the same time, DOSTOYEVSKY is distinguished by an extremely stubborn character and is able to quietly but persistently follow moral or religious guidelines. So, no matter how hard you try, you will never be able to lead him astray (if, of course, he has embarked on it). He may not argue with you, but he will not back down from his principles either.

DOSTOYEVSKY is not one of those who are ready for open confrontation. However, he is able to foresee a conflict situation and bypass it. If she fell on his head in the form of a tipsy bully in a dark alley, then DOSTOYEVSKY will be able to joke so kindly that in the end the potential offender will part with him as with his best friend.

Dostoyevsky has an extremely large reserve of patience, but if you nevertheless managed to offend this wonderful person, his meek appearance and downcast eyes full of sadness cannot fail to make the proper impression on you. There is no doubt that at this moment you will want more than anything in the world to fall through the ground.

Step one (forward)

DOSTOYEVSKY, sitting modestly in a corner in company, is not always immediately noticeable. He, as a rule, does not participate in the general noisy conversation. But he will read the desire to communicate in your eyes and will respond with pleasure if you sit next to him and start a conversation.

Ask him something about the moral law, about how people should behave. He will be happy to present you with some concept of improving public morality.

Listen to him with understanding, without allowing any aggression. Do not voice, for example, such recipes: "Hang all the bastards and scoundrels on lampposts, period." This way of thinking is not close to him and will immediately scare him away.

Step two (forward)

DOSTOYEVSKY's dream is to hear something like this: "We have nothing to fear, because we know what to do." But, taking into account his manhood, do not tell him that you will protect him and think for him. Both points must be present in your relationship non-verbally.

You can give him a corkscrew when he tries to take the cork out of the bottle with his teeth. Try with him to disassemble the instructions for new tools and devices. Do not say: "It is clearly written right there that you need to start with this screw." Say instead: "Let's try it like this" - and feel free to do as you see fit.

If someone shows aggression against you, do not wait for him to show heroism. As an ethicist, he may be able to get out of the situation through diplomacy.

If this fails, come to the fore and act in your own way. The protection of your common territory should take place without words in deeds, without the intervention of your partner. He will feel supported and protected. And in gratitude for such support, he will want to be with you for a long, long time.

Step three (forward)

The thought of comfort unconsciously attracts DOSTOYEVSKY. Draw him a pastoral picture of a cozy family nest. It should be warm and beautiful there. Tell us what a caring father he will turn out to be.

Persuade him to go to the store for a wedding suit, at least try it on. Express your admiration, say that it is inexpensive and you can afford to be so beautiful once in your life.

Key phrases:
"We are such a beautiful couple."
"Let's have a romantic candlelit dinner tonight."
“How nice to feel your care”, etc.

Step back

If asceticism and constant quiet sadness about a decline in morals have finally brought you mortal anguish, you no longer need to resist your desire to leave. Try not to injure this subtle being. In this case, one must be very careful with the mask of his information conflicter.

Tell him this: “I don’t understand anything about your infinite humanism. You need a more subtle and spiritual nature.

It's good to hint to him about your atheistic beliefs. This will make the right impression on him. Repeat emphatically from time to time: “Religion is the opiate of the people. They only fool our brother and that's it! How can you trust them?"

As soon as he discovers your lack of spiritual interests, he will immediately be disappointed in you. His conscience will not allow him to maintain a relationship with a person who has not lived up to his expectations so much.

Artistic image: PETROUSHA GRINEV (A. Pushkin. "The Captain's Daughter"), ALESH KARAMAZOV (F. Dostoevsky. "The Brothers Karamazov")

Lyubov Beskova, Elena Udalova

The world for Dostoevsky consists of relationships between people. He keeps track of the slightest change in relationships, sees their perspective, this also applies to his personal relationships, and those that he observes between other people. At close range, Dostoevsky is set only for positive relations; it is very difficult for him to be in conditions of open hostility. For the sake of a good relationship, he can give up many things that are not important for him. He can openly express his negative attitude towards someone only as a last resort, if something completely egregious happens. If Dostoevsky's attitude towards someone has changed for the worse, he rarely speaks about it out loud, but simply increases the psychological distance between himself and this person. He knows how to sincerely forgive if he sees a person’s inner desire to improve relations.

He likes to observe people, trying to understand their motives and aspirations. In any life situation, he tries to find a positive moment. In any question that interests him, he tries to find the essence, to understand the most important thing.

Strives to follow generally accepted principles in life, easily accepts the rules of the game and obeys the rules. He tries to put all complex questions in his head in a clear and simple scheme.

Any pressure is hard for him, in communication he counts on the goodwill of partners, he does not know how to force others and does not tolerate direct pressure in his address. It is difficult to accept criticism on this topic. It is hard for him to strain and do something with effort if there is no clear plan of action.

He needs clear instructions in everything related to any practical activity, without them he is lost, he can do nothing at all. With the accumulation of personal experience, he begins to better navigate practical matters, masters various crafts. He is attracted by information about how to organize space and use resources efficiently, about various technologies. With pleasure, he can perform monotonous work, provided that it is understandable and feasible for him.

In everyday life, he is tuned to physical comfort, as far as possible he tries to equip it for himself and his loved ones, it is often difficult for him to cope with this task himself, but he gladly supports someone else's initiative. In the arrangement of everyday life, clothes, he tries to use other people's schemes and patterns, choosing from them what he likes best.

He tries to produce as little "emotional noise" as possible, considers any strong manifestations of emotions, both positive and negative, to be unnecessary.

He knows how to foresee any scenarios for the development of events, both in a positive direction and in a negative one, he is rarely characterized by impatience, knows how to wait.

The young man DOSTOYEVSKY is modest, tactful and delicate, a great lover of reading and, in general, an intellectual. Most often there is an asthenic physique. He has a quiet voice, a meek look, an affectionate smile and an elevated train of thought. He likes to wear long hair, according to modern fashion, sometimes he takes it in a ponytail. He does not pay due attention to clothes, believing that this is not the main thing in life, so he is usually dressed very modestly. Although occasionally there are real dandies among men of this type in expensive wide-brimmed hats and long coats. It all depends on the individual orientation of the character.

When you talk to DOSTOYEVSKY, it seems that conscience itself looks into your eyes. He has the gift of understanding people. He is sympathetic, able to empathize with other people's sorrows and misfortunes, console, sharing your bad mood. You can trust him - he will never go against the interests of people close to him.

At school, boys of this type are usually transparent and quiet. They are friendly to all children in the class, friendly, always ready to enter into the position of any student, whether it be a friend or just a classmate. But they are not ambitious, they do not participate in fights, they do not fight for leadership. They know how to find a common language with almost any children. The DOSTOYEVSKII boys study well, they can valiantly cope with mathematics, but still they like to communicate more, they are more interested in the personal life of their classmates, which they quietly watch from the sidelines, thinking a lot and dreamily to themselves about everything that happens. They describe their experiences on this (and on other occasions) in poetry or prose, to which they regularly devote some time.

When choosing an institute, their inclination towards the humanities is most often manifested.

Once I had a chance to look into his inner world. I found that outward carelessness is combined in him with a tendency to severe self-criticism. In private, he could spend hours worrying about his idleness or regretting a wrong word for a long time.

But among the representatives of this type there are also such heroes who enter the Bauman Institute and even graduate with honors.

Sports, especially in childhood, do not attract them too much. Although, having matured a little and having acquired a more material body, they can get carried away with yoga, skiing, or those sports that require speed and good reaction from the participant, with the exception of power sports, where the emphasis is on aggressiveness, wrestling and clashing opponents.

Despite his quiet nature and desire for a solitary existence, the young man DOSTOYEVSKY loves people and meets them with pleasure. Boys of this type are also in companies, but even there they still prefer to communicate one on one in turn with everyone who has aroused their interest or to whom they are attached. DOSTOYEVSKY's character is soft and docile, so that he is very responsive to women's initiative. He behaves like a gallant cavalier, jokes and maintains a soft, unobtrusive fun. By the way, he is witty, so he may seem quite an interesting partner to his lady. As for himself, he most of all likes strong-willed, determined, restrained girls who always know what they want, and can also tell you what to do in a given situation.

From the young men of this type, soft, docile husbands are obtained. They are caring and friendly. They don't have aggressiveness. And they also know how to maintain an atmosphere in the house, decorated with gentle humor. However, you should know that, being docile and meek, DOSTOYEVSKY is also distinguished by an extremely stubborn character and is able to quietly but persistently follow some of his own rules. He may not argue with you, but he will not back down from his principles either. However, he is usually non-confrontational, trying to avoid open confrontation. It is easier for him to laugh it off, to translate the quarrel into a humorous channel, especially since most often he succeeds well.

He chooses the same tactics with children. This is a benevolent friend and educator, rather pedantic, but humane. It will not only help you learn, but also teach you how to treat people with respect, as well as how not to lose high goals and spiritual guidelines in life. He becomes very attached to children, misses them if he leaves home for a long time.

In relations with his family, DOSTOYEVSKY's reserve of patience is extremely great. However, if you nevertheless managed to offend him, then DOSTOYEVSKY's meek air and full of sadness, downcast eyes, cannot fail to make the proper impression on you. There is no doubt that at this moment you will want more than anything in the world to fall through the ground, and you will regret your unfair words.

Since the DOSTOYEVSKIIs love and know how to live according to a plan, they are excellent workers who you can always rely on. They are punctual, quite thorough

at work and very responsible. Men of this type are passionate about the common cause. Their abilities find application in a variety of fields, ranging from humanitarian to technical. Often they work as teachers at school or university lecturers, editors, journalists. There are also among people of this type and those who are professionally engaged in chemistry. They can work as engineers or designers at the factory. But best of all they succeed in a career as a psychologist, because these people are born psychologists.

Their human qualities allow them to occupy a special niche in the team. Employees usually love and respect them for their tolerance, willingness to listen and understand everyone, for their responsiveness and reliability.

Socionics is a science that studies the characteristics of a person's perception of information from the surrounding world, his reaction to certain factors, and a behavioral model formed on the basis of this. The foundation of the doctrine is the sensations and emotions of the individual, his logical thinking and evaluative qualities. Analyzing them, scientists divide people into 16 types. In this article, we will analyze one of their psychotypes, which is studied by socionics. Dostoevsky, namely, he will be discussed below, is a friendly person who likes to silently observe others more than to actively maintain a conversation.

Boy-Dostoevsky

According to socionics, Dostoevsky-man is a born intellectual. Since childhood, he is delicate and tactful, loves to read and learn. He likes to wear long hair tied in a ponytail and modest clothes. His voice is quiet, his gaze is meek, and his smile is affectionate. When you talk to him, it's impossible to lie. There is a feeling that conscience itself is looking into your eyes. It is impossible not to believe him, he perfectly understands people, goes to meet them halfway. Able to empathize, console and share the hardships of the interlocutor.

Quiet, inconspicuous and obedient - this is how socionics characterizes the boy. Dostoevsky maintains friendly relations with all the children in the class. He does not participate in fights, as he believes that any trouble can be resolved peacefully. Not ambitious, so he does not fight for leadership. He studies well, especially he succeeds in mathematics. But it is not science that occupies him more, but the personal life of classmates, which he observes, analyzing and drawing conclusions.

Youth

When entering a higher educational institution, she prefers the humanities. Getting an education, there are not enough stars from the sky, trying to get lost among the students. But among the Dostoevskys there are also truly unique individuals who can easily graduate from Harvard University with honors. The young man does not like sports. But you can get into yoga. In addition, he likes skiing, as well as any entertainment where an instant reaction and iron endurance are required from the participant.

Constantly being in society is the main goal pursued by Dostoevsky. Socionics describes this psychotype as follows: despite the quiet, sometimes closed nature, he loves the company of people, tries in every possible way to keep the conversation going on any topic. The character of the young man is flexible and soft. Already at this age, he is popular with women. Since he is a very gallant, attentive gentleman with a sense of humor and good manners.

Family life

Boys of this type make good husbands: faithful, caring and gentle. There is absolutely no aggression in them - and socionics makes a strong emphasis on this character trait. Dostoevsky the man will never raise his hand against a woman, he will not furiously prove his case. If he disagrees with something, then he will simply quietly do as he sees fit, since he will never deviate from principles. In the house, Dostoevsky knows how to maintain a pleasant, friendly atmosphere: he jokes with all family members, he often has a playful mood.

Communicating with children, chooses analogous tactics. It is absolutely non-confrontational. This is not a strict father, but a friend-educator who respects the kids, knows how to interest them, convey life experience, spiritual guidelines and his high goals. Here is what else he writes about this eternal romance of socionics: “Dostoevsky has a huge reserve of patience. But if you still managed to offend him, a meek look and eyes full of sadness will make you simply fall underground from the realization of your own worthlessness and stupidity.

Characteristics of a girl

Cutie - this is how you can call a young lady who belongs to the Dostoevsky psychotype (socionics). A woman is already kind and accommodating from the cradle, so she does not cause unnecessary grief and trouble to her parents. She is very charming, delicate, modest and shy. Despite her fragility, she has amazing resilience when problems hit like snow on her head. The eyes of such a girl always glow, a spark wanders in them, a light. He dresses modestly so as not to draw too much attention.

At school, she is a diligent and diligent student. He does not argue with teachers: even if the assessment is unfair, he will remain silent. The authority of a teacher is dearer to her than her own. The girl has few friends: usually a few classmates, just as quiet and modest, with whom she discusses the events of school life in a corner at a break. Inclined to the humanities: she writes the best essays, invents poetry. Literature influences her character, giving him the features of a romantic nature.

Young years

According to socionics, Dostoevsky, in which a female portrait is very similar to a male one, is usually always a delicate and fragile creature. She doesn’t like sports, but she loves to dance - this activity most closely matches her image of a “lyrical young lady”. Such girls often finish school with a gold medal, after which they must enter the university. Treat teachers courteously and with dignity, which impresses them and evokes sympathy. Her knowledge is solid and her demeanor modest.

Despite this, the Dostoevsky girl (socionics) likes to have fun. A woman prefers a society where she is valued and loved, I notice and allow her to open up. Here she can loosen up, chirping cheerfully with friends or flirting with potential suitors. By the way, the man she dreams of must be reliable, intelligent and self-confident. And most importantly - correct. A man who swears and abuses alcohol will never win her heart.

Marriage with a Dostoevsky woman

This is the case when the husband was lucky. Such a spouse is a quiet angel, who has the most developed sense of duty and responsibility. Do not grumble, will cook, wash, iron, darn, clean. To be honest, housework does not attract her, but she will never refuse to do them. And if the husband requires constantly fresh food, he will cook three times a day, without repeating a single dish. He takes care of the health of the household, so he diligently writes down recipes for herbal preparations for all kinds of diseases.

Neither children nor old parents will be deprived of her attention. She will play with the kids and learn her lessons. Pensioners will constantly visit, call several times a day, being interested in the health of even the most distant relative. Sometimes it is difficult for her to make important decisions. According to socionics, Dostoevsky the girl in such cases relies on a man: she will listen to his opinion with pleasure and will definitely follow the indicated path.

Career for men and women

Dostoevsky always loves to live according to plan. Socionics characterizes the relationship of this psychotype to work as follows: rigor, clarity and adherence to principles. Therefore, they always make excellent workers: thorough, punctual, responsible. They always fulfill the plan, pass the work standards on time, sincerely root for the common cause. Their inherent human qualities allow them to occupy a special niche in the team. Employees appreciate and respect them for their reliability, responsiveness, ability to help and listen.

Their abilities can show in different areas of life. Here is what socionics says about these personalities: “Dostoevsky chooses different professions - from technical to humanitarian. He also makes an excellent teacher. And an equally talented engineer. Representatives of this psychotype can also become journalists, editors, librarians, designers. But the career of a psychologist is most suitable for them, because by nature these people have a rare gift to penetrate into the subconscious of the interlocutor.