The life path of the individual. The life path of a person: the choice of each or fate

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The man woke up in the forest. And I realized that I was lost.

He had suspected something like this before, but the Voice inside said: “ Relax man, it's okay!«

He burst into tears in despair, but he realized that this would not help the cause.

And then by chance his gaze fell on a tree and the man suddenly realized that to see beyond the forest he must rise above the forest with the help of the tallest tree.

And from the height of this tree, a man finally saw his Way.

In order not to stray in life and to know our Path, we also need such a “high tree”. What is this tree? I will tell you about this in my article.

We know where we're going, we're just lying to ourselves!

Usually, when ignorant people advise you to choose your Path (to find your destiny), they say something like: “ Remember what you loved to do as a child, what were you fond of, what could you do for hours?»

Despite the fact that such a "one-move" in no way guarantees finding one's own Path, there is a drop of truth here. It lies in the fact that in childhood the child’s brains have not yet been clogged with attitudes about the need to find a “normal job” and “live like normal people live”, he can dream and is more free to communicate with his unconscious. This means that he can feel his Way, but is not yet able to comprehend it rationally.

Having matured and having begun his movement in social life, a person subconsciously, in the depths of his soul, strives to get to a place where he will be maximally realized in accordance with his inner nature. This place (let's call it " point of self-realization“) is characterized by a state of increased productivity and pleasure. In various sources, it is known as the “state of flow” (Csikszentmihalyi), “satori” (in Buddhism), “action in non-action” (Bhagavad Gita).

What is important here is that in this state a person VERY HAPPY from what he does and what he aspires to. He acts with enthusiasm, and enthusiasm is the best means of purifying karma (for those who care about it) or, in other words, improving one's inner state and the outer side of life in general.

So, if a person really knows where to go, then why can't he go there? Why does a person think that he does not know where his Path is? Or knows, but does not follow it. The answer is simple: it is a lie to itself. Man lies to himself in order to justify the choice in favor of social "normality" and his own ignorance in general.

« First failure«

One can talk for a long time about the inferiority and injustice of the social order, but one thing can be safely stated - society as such, at least, is not interested in a person fully fulfilling himself and moving along his own Path. The society is interested in a person being realized as a “normal member of society”, having mastered the relevant cultural norms, the observance of which is strictly monitored inner Taskmaster.

All this leads to the fact that a person, subconsciously striving for a point of self-realization, faces various barriers - social, educational, material, etc. ). But the main barrier is ignorance about one's Path: a person does not know who he really is and where he should go.

It's happening here "first failure"- when a person fails to come to " point of self-realization» he begins to move towards NOT-his goal, not his activity (let's call it social goal-I). Having achieved social goal-I, a person may not experience strong passion or happiness there (or experience false ones), but on the whole he is doing well: he can buy a car, take out a mortgage, purchase household appliances, go on vacation and not be very tired at work. There is satisfaction in having achieved material well-being or social status, but there is no enthusiasm and pleasure that a person inwardly craves. There is no harmony in the soul.

People who have reached social purpose-I in general, they are satisfied with their work, but they are not able to achieve any significant creative results in it, they are not able to be fanatically devoted to their work (like Henry Ford, who assembled his first car in a barn) and get real pleasure from it. If they are, they will most likely stop doing it.

« Second failure« and downward spiral

If a person fails to achieve social purpose-I(due to social, educational, financial, internal or other barriers), or for external reasons, he was outside this state (the global crisis destroyed jobs in the industry or dramatically increased qualification requirements), then he proceeds to achieve social purpose-II- for example, he takes an uninteresting job for the sake of earning money. Here he is unhappy and dissatisfied with his job, his education, and his whole life in general.

Because the feeling of inner betrayal(betrayal of oneself and one's Path) intensifies, then a person begins to get tired faster, exhausted faster, lose control over his life faster and get sick more. The inner emptiness grows. Feeling unhappy and not realizing the true causes of his unhappiness, a person begins to turn to sources of external support - these can be clubs, sects, alcohol and other drugs.

In the future, a person may lose this goal and slide even further - to complete depression and desocialization (you can regularly observe such characters near liquor stores and at train stations). These people deserve not condemnation, but mercy and compassion. Most are “lucky” and happily retire to finally “rest”. Retirement is a very cool indicator showing that a person with self-realization is not very good. If a person has his own Way, then pensions for him DOES NOT EXIST ! He goes on his Path until the death of the physical body.

Now, knowing this whole scheme (self-realization - full socialization - partial socialization - desocialization), you can determine your place on it, understand where and in what direction you are moving (or slipping). And knowing your exact location "on the map" gives you a powerful opportunity to choose a new point to move. Ready?

6 things

In order to move to point of self-realization There are 6 things a person should know about himself.

Who am I and what is my place in life– we are talking about the realization of one’s truly spiritual nature and one’s function (in the Vedas brought to India by the Aryans, they are called “varnas”, the main functions are 4) in the human system: if a person was born with a craving for truth and knowledge of the world, he becomes a Brahmin (or sorcerer); if with a craving for power and a fair order, then a kshatriya (or knight); if a person has a craving for wealth, prosperity and material well-being - he is a vaishya (or weighing); if a person does not particularly aspire to anywhere and only wants to do his job and get enough money to live on, he is a hard worker, a sudra (or a smerd).

What is my mission(or destiny, what is predetermined, predestined before the birth of the physical body on a spiritual level) is the answer to the question “why did I come into this world” or “what do I live for”; as a rule, this is a rather abstract idea, expressed by a certain verb - to help, contribute, create, etc. And here the maximum accuracy of the wording is important, otherwise there are vacillations.

What is my purpose in life– what is the most important result in my life (or even beyond) I want to achieve, why and for whom; as a rule, such a goal is so grandiose that it becomes the equivalent of a human life. And as soon as a person has such a Goal, he immediately has a Way.

My values– in other words, what exactly, what ideas, principles I am guided by in life. And these values should be their own, not borrowed (that is, they should not be the values of cultural or religious systems).

My talents- these are the abilities and skills of a person, that is, what turns out to be done very well, naturally, as if by itself.

Personal characteristics- these are desires, interests, genetic inclinations, personal qualities and traits

All these things (elements) must be coordinated with each other, otherwise it will turn out " swan, crayfish and pike» in the unconscious - different motivations will conflict and pull in different directions.

For example, someone LOVES to play with children very much, but he does not last long and he does not have the talent to invent games, holidays and be very attentive.

And at the same time, a person has a completely conscious goal - to teach people how to eat right.

It is clear that if such a person chooses for himself the profession of a child educator (baby sitter), then he will either not be able to realize himself or will fail.

Or a person who loves everything new, has the talent to intuitively find simple solutions, who wants to change the world, chooses to work as a marketer in a large corporation as his life's work. It is obvious that he will not be happy and will not be able to realize himself (this is beautifully shown in the film " 99 francs«).

It is even worse when a person does not know who he is, what is his place in life, what is his mission, what is his Purpose, his true talents, values, personal qualities.

Such a person will be like a billiard ball - all the time hitting the walls and never hitting the hole

Well, as a result, life will not be lived as well as we would like, meaningless.

When all these elements are brought together, it becomes clear to a person how to realize himself, which is his "life's work", i.e. professional occupation that corresponds to his Mission, Goal, function (varna), inner nature, talents, values, interests.

As a result, a person receives a complete picture, where there is an understanding of himself and his place in life, his mission (or purpose) and his Big goal along the Path to which he self-realizes in his life's work.

This is the foundation on which a person builds his building of life.

Practice Finding Your Path

It is intuitively clear that our Path is programmed (predetermined) even before our birth. But if you try to ask yourself the question of what exactly it is, then most likely we will get something abstract in response. For example, something like "help people be happy" or "teach people to be strong" or "show the world what harmony looks like." Such an answer is valuable, but not in itself, but in combination with other elements of our system - talents, abilities, inclinations, our varna (i.e., function in the human system).

I described this situation as follows - imagine that you have a single leader (God, Tao, Absolute Truth, Supreme Intelligence, etc.), who sits very, very high and determines the strategic goals, the truth of which you feel intuitively, but unable to rationalize.

And this leader sets, for example, the following task for you - to help the children of the whole world learn to enjoy life more (this is the feeling of mission, destiny). And how to carry it out - decide for yourself, this is your responsibility.

If you are serious about the task entrusted to you, then go out to set a Big and Worthy Goal. For example, such a Goal could be to come up with real children's holidays (according to creator of TRIZ and TRTL Heinrich Altshuller mankind has not yet created a purely children's holiday with all its special attributes). The development of a methodology (technology) for generating such holidays is your Way, your “life work”.

Naturally, such a Goal must be consistent with the rest of the elements of the system - with your nature, talents, desires, interests. But I hope you get the general gist.

« One-move« or system?

Now the "market" of searching for one's vocation/destiny is dominated by techniques, exercises that can be called "one-move moves".

Here are some examples of typical "one-move":

Analyze 100 goals and choose yours
Imagine that you have 1 year left to live, six months ..
Imagine that you have $1000000-10.000.000 - what will you do
What did you like to do as a child, what did you like to play
If you had all the necessary resources, what book would you like to write (other than an autobiography)?
Listen to yourself, to your reactions to the world, to your emotions, to your heart and soul.

"One-move" by itself is not evil. Another thing is that they are of little use. This can be compared to the following example: imagine that you need to clean a huge window clean. You take a small piece of cotton wool and begin to vigorously rub the dirt. After 5 minutes, a piece of cotton wool becomes unusable and you take the next, and the next, and the next .. And so exactly until the moment when you do not have completely clean pieces - only used ones will be. You cleared some part of the window, but the rest of the space remains unclean.

This is how one-move moves work - they solve the problem very, very slowly and with minimal effect. Don't believe? Try a weak file to saw through a cast-iron pipe a meter thick.

The system works differently. A feature of the system is that the elements included in it do not just interact, but by their interaction generate a new system property. Let's say we take 100 liters of water, a long hose, a motor, something else. Each of these elements individually will not help us clean the window, but by combining them into a system, we create a powerful stream that will deal with unclean places in 5 minutes. The analogy is crude but understandable.

Practicing "one-move" you become a person who wanders in the fog - take a step, the fog does not change, take another step, the fog still continues to surround you, take the third step and run into the fog again. And then the circle starts. Theoretically, you can get out of the fog in this way, but I think no one can give an accurate forecast - when exactly this will happen.

The system is movement THROUGH the fog. Yes, he is, he does not disappear anywhere, but ahead you see the LIGHTHOUSE. Or a guiding star. And you are moving. Because you know WHERE move and HOW EXACTLY move (to make it more interesting, safer, and faster).

By acting on the system, you not only find out what you need to do in order to lead a happy, exciting, harmonious, interesting life in complete harmony with yourself and the world - a life in which there will be a Path and a Big Goal, a life that you will be proud of. You will also see very clearly in which area of activity you can achieve outstanding results, because this area is fully consistent with your mission, your inner nature, talents, values and personal characteristics.

When to make a choice?

It is never too late to find your path and move along it. Even if you are 70 years old and you have decided that life has already been lived. Another thing is that the earlier you start, the more time you will have and the more fruitful, interesting and richer you will live your life.

When Roald Amundsen set himself the goal of becoming a polar explorer (and reaching the South Pole) he was 15 years old and he was not fit for the “storming of Antarctica”. Therefore, he began to go in for skiing, slept with open windows, etc. At the age of 70, it would have been much more difficult for him to do this.

Nicholas Roerich, thanks to a chance (“miracle”), he became interested in the topic of antiquity at the age of 9 thanks to his acquaintance with the archaeologist Ivanovsky. In fact, this determined the entire further life Path of this undoubtedly outstanding person (“he already came to the Academy of Arts with his internally conscious topic related to archeology and the history of Ancient Russia”). Sure, he could have done it at 70, but...

And many more such examples could be cited. Their essence is the same, the sooner you start, the more you will achieve. Therefore, if you are faced with the dilemma “start your Path now or wait a little”, then understand that there is REALLY NO dilemma. There is only an unconscious fear of the new (ignorance) and the actions of the Taskmaster, forbidding to leave the comfort zone. If you really If you want to fulfill yourself, find your own Path and engage in the "work of life", which will make you a free and happy person, then you can only have one solution ..

Do you want to know WHAT EXACTLY needs to be done in your individual case to find your life Path, to create and realize your life's work, which will bring you pleasure, recognition and profit? Then

Life is not a simple biological phenomenon, rather, it can be called an individual socio-historical fact, the reason for which is that every living being on Earth grows and develops. But here, too, a person is distinguished by an additional feature - he is also formed as a person, has his own claims, dreams, values, aspirations, achievements and his own worldview.

Achieving delivered goals, the individual goes his way in this world. However, not everyone is able to know this joy and understand what his calling is. Many people live aimlessly, not asking themselves the most important question: how to find the right path in life?

Let's try to figure out what is the reason for such indifference, and what will help in determining our own significance.

To begin with, it is important to note the fact that human life is divided into five phases. special Attention such a statement was given by the famous German psychologist K. Buhler, who found out that the first two phases are completely related to the search for one's place in life.

He said in his studies that the first phase lasts from 16-20 years old, and is outside the mission assigned to a person. This time is allotted for self-determination. The second phase begins after this period and lasts until the age of 25–35, when a person begins to look for himself in various fields of activity, faces obstacles, his own insecurities, realizes responsibility for choosing a profession and determines what he really needs.

Problem of choice

Sometimes a person is confused and cannot find his own "I", which constantly requires self-realization. This is exactly that case when you can’t sit back and torment yourself with failures, you need to act. And the first step is to eliminate the problem by finding out the reasons that led to the loss of a life orientation.

Psychologists believe that the lost state of a person is associated with the following circumstances:

in connection with the loss (loss of a loved one, status, job);
due to the inability to change the situation due to any restrictions (health, financial barriers, etc.);
due to the imposition of someone else's opinion by relatives or close people (for example: "You will never become a writer!", etc.);
as completely satisfied with the comfort zone;
if there is no main goal;
with overwhelming success (mass recognition often responds with a dangerous depression);
due to self-doubt (the reason for this: a lack of understanding that the desired can be realized only through efforts) and fear (which can paralyze consciousness, including in defending one's own convictions).
fear (capable of paralyzing any attempts to uphold beliefs, move towards a goal, or even expand your comfort zone).

Search for a calling

To understand yourself, first you need to listen to your desires, because desires are part of human nature. Often they are social in nature, but thanks to them, conscious activity begins. And constant thinking about an unresolved issue eventually degenerates into the main life goals.

If there is confusion in desires, then you need to expand the sphere of interests, find new connections, try new things. The essence of its significance may be beyond its perception, but when a person covers By paying attention to areas that were previously closed to him, from a different angle, he begins to determine what he needs and wants to realize it.

Also, don't limit yourself. Many believe that effective work only bears fruit in one direction. It is not always so. Undoubtedly, there are goals that require "total immersion", however, it is not necessary to spend all of yourself on their implementation. Psychologists recommend combining the main goal with others that take less time, they are distracting and harmonize perfectly with each other.

Finding your path will be much easier if you analyze yourself, imagining that "I" is a source of useful resources for completing a certain mission. To do this, you need to ask yourself the following questions:

What can I do?
What actions am I capable of?
How far can I go in pursuit of the meaning of life?

Abilities are of great importance, since they are personality traits that determine the implementation of the plan, its implementation and success.

In order to come to the “point of self-realization”, you need to know 6 important things about yourself:

Who am I? Where is my place in life? - in the answers to these questions lies the awareness of the spiritual nature of man and the function assigned to him.
What is the mission of man on earth? Why did I come into this world? - it is important to find an understanding of life on a spiritual level, that is, to determine what is destined.
What is my main goal? - what needs to be achieved, the reason for this, the desired result.
What are my values? - personal ideas, principles and beliefs that guide people.
What are my talents? - it can be abilities when something turns out well as if by itself.
Personal characteristics - important honestly admit to yourself both shortcomings and virtues (these can be personal qualities, character traits, genetic inclinations, desires, interests, etc. .

When a person “puts things in order” in these things, he will immediately understand how to choose the right path in life. It is also important to note that the answer must be clearly formulated here, since all elements of such introspection must be consistent with each other. Otherwise, different motivations will lead to internal conflict.

Numerology. Life path number

Numerological characteristics will help determine your life path. After all, what is destined for a person is often hidden in his date of birth. Astrologers have long learned to reveal personal characteristics, goals and objectives, which they have conveyed to our time.

So, by sequentially adding up the numbers of the full date of birth.

For example, the date of birth is December 26, 1982.

Add up:

day: 2 + 6 = 8;
month: 1 + 2 = 3;
year: 1 + 9 +8 + 2 = 20 = 2 + 0 = 2;
results obtained: 8 + 3 + 2 = 13 = 1+3 = 4.

Thus, the number in which the mission of a person is laid down is 4.

Number values

Unit- a symbol of confidence. The owner of this number is the leader in everything. He is ambitious and independent, he will always find a goal and will strive to her, not counting on help from outside. His weak side is excessive self-confidence and errors in assessing his own capabilities. When choosing such people, it is better to stick to the most convenient.

deuce talks about relationships with the outside world. Depending on how strong and harmonious these relationships are, well-being is expressed. Life task - perfect relationships with others. People of this number are friendly, contact, compliant, objective. Weakness is manifested in gullibility, uncertainty and inability to defend interests.

Troika. Mo I must say, a brilliant number, bright, bringing joy. The owner of the triple is a great storyteller and a pleasant listener. He is talented in almost everything and the reason for this is to tell people that life is beautiful. Such people need to try everything, but choose according to taste.

Four is, at first glance, an unfortunate number. But this view is superficial! This number is not about difficulties, but about diligence. The owner of the four does not get anything just like that, but the satisfaction from achieving the goals set goes off scale.

Not everyone succeeds in finding a foothold in order to turn the world upside down, but the owners of this number can do it, because these people feel a lot and keep close in hope. They are sincere, reliable, distinguished by vitality, but are often dissatisfied with the current life, because it seems to them that everyone around is lucky, and their fate has cheated them in this, but this does not prevent them from achieving their goal, because such people are “masters of their own destiny” .

Five- a parade of opportunities, a festival of interests and abilities. These are people who are full of enthusiasm and are constantly in move, they like to take risks and know how to get out of the water "dry". Their vocation is to travel and communicate with different people, which will undoubtedly bring benefits and pleasure.

Six- this is balance in everything: in relations with people, material well-being, talents. The owner of the six seeks not only to receive, but also to give, has the abilities of a two and the talents of a three, however, he receives the greatest satisfaction in the family.

lot sevens- aspiration, research, solitude. Exactly this mysterious number. Its owners are mysterious people, very intuitive, striving for the knowledge of everything mysterious (phenomena, spirituality). Seven is able to achieve great success in religion and mysticism.

To eight are complete materialists. Their motto is: "What I don't know is not." They do not believe in anything and demand proof in everything. These are strong-willed, resolute, responsible and fearless people, whose level of exactingness is not only for themselves, but also for others.

Nine reflects in the owner of this number service to people and the main problem here is to learn to serve them without demanding anything in return. These are people with great opportunities, unlike others, who follow the path of self-improvement and share their experience with others.

The main difficulty of the nine is that it cannot oppose everything in relation to the general culture, which only does what dominates the concept of immediate exchange, even when you are infinitely generous. Therefore, it is important to learn for such people not to expect immediate gratitude, because they may be haunted by the same thought that the main goal not achieved, and all the efforts were in vain. This means that not everything has been done, and the person has not fully realized that he has already been given so much.

Number eleven has a strong intuition and the ability to use their internal reserves, which are not so available to other people. The task of the owner of this number is to make important discoveries that will move forward everything that is on Earth. These are people with well-developed extrasensory abilities, who receive some kind of insight (information) from above. They have the ability to lead people and, thanks to a powerful intellect with an unusual worldview, see phenomena and events from a different angle.

With the development and improvement of their own abilities, which will be directed to service and creation, such people have the knowledge of how to enlighten humanity. But if the owner of the number could not realize his mission, like the number eleven and manifests his essence in the fate of the two, this will add only well-developed intuition and charisma to his characteristic.

Twenty two- the number is higher in its essence than eleven. If eleven reflects enlightenment and carries constant new ideas on a huge scale, then twenty-two brings new projects into the world and implements them.

Here it should be noted outstanding abilities in all areas of human feelings and knowledge, the ability to create and implement the most ambitious plans that can change the lives of almost all people.

The mission is a deep awareness of the available opportunities, the ability to implement and control them.

If this number manifests itself in the life of its owner more like the value of the number four, then fate enriches him with the necessary desire for his improvement and makes him work tirelessly on himself, and also increases his demands on himself.

Attention, only TODAY!

Life is diverse, unpredictable and amazing. Life is boring, monotonous and monotonous. Life is filled with joyful events, creative impulses and interesting meetings. There are many things in life that could not be better. She is able to give only unpleasant surprises and inflict unexpected blows. Which of the following is true? Depends on point of view. What does the point of view depend on? That's right, from who and how looks. Someone is at the top and sees everything around in iridescent colors. Some have to watch from the depths of despair and disillusionment. And his world looks very different.

Finding your way in life means deciding on a point of view. Understand yourself, determine what the space around you should be like, what kind of people you want to see next to you, what you want to do and what to achieve. This may not be easy, for a person may err on his own account, fall under the influence of others, and act out of wrong desires.

To begin with, let's figure out what the life path consists of.

Lifestyle
This value can be constant, or it can change throughout life. Someone lives in a metropolis, at a fast pace and in a hard rhythm. Someone in a small town or village where no one is in a hurry and time goes by slowly.

Some like to move in society, constantly be in sight and cannot live a minute without communicating with their own kind. Other people are closed, immersed in their inner world and do not need the constant presence of friends and acquaintances.

The lifestyle has other aspects too: the desire for constant change and movement or a stable life in one place, the search for new opportunities and the development or strengthening of what is available and permanence, the improvement of body and spirit, or accepting oneself as one is.

A lifestyle can be imposed from childhood, but this does not mean that it cannot be changed. It all depends on your desire and understanding of your needs.

Profession
Most often the value is constant, sometimes unfortunately, sometimes fortunately. The situation when the choice of profession was random is not at all uncommon. Many go to college just because their parents said so, or to be with a friend, or because the exams are easier there. Then they go to work in the profession they have learned or where they can get a job. And five years later they realize that this is not at all what they would like.

If such an understanding has come, great. The main thing here is not to be afraid and not to follow the force of habit and your own stereotypes. Understanding what he does not like and what he wants, a person can outline a plan of action and come to a state where his desires come true.

It is worse when a person understands that he does not like the work he is doing, but it is not clear what he wants to do. In this case, you can try to figure out your desires and skills on your own, or you can contact a psychologist and be tested to identify abilities and talents.

Personal life
In this aspect, a person is influenced by many factors: patterns of behavior and relationships that have developed in the family and that he observed in childhood, stereotypes imposed by popular culture, the example of friends and acquaintances, and his own conflicting desires.

Someone is sure that his destiny is freedom and independence and follows this path, starting short-lived novels and non-committal relationships. Someone believes that the only acceptable way of existence is a strong, stable family with children. There are also intermediate options.

In our time, the institution of the family has changed significantly. Our grandparents got married and married once and for life. Then they lived together for several decades, sometimes happily, sometimes not so much, but most often they did not think about divorce. This was considered wrong and indecent.

Now everything is different. People get married, get divorced, get married again, sometimes more than once. They bring up their children and children of spouses from previous marriages. Modern children take for granted the presence of natural and adoptive fathers and mothers.

So now there are more opportunities in terms of personal life. A person has the right to make a mistake and the opportunity to correct it with less loss.

Now consider what drives us and what should move us when choosing a life path and in the process of following it.

wishes
An obscure and controversial area. Desires do not always correspond to needs and opportunities. Sometimes a person's desires become his enemies and lead him into dense jungle, from which it is difficult to get out.

What does the person want? Love, prosperity, recognition. Often they say - happiness. But not everyone can formulate what happiness is. It is important to learn to understand your desires, to understand which ones are necessary and correct, and which ones are momentary and lead nowhere.

Capabilities
It is not always easy to evaluate them on your own. Friends, colleagues and other people around you can come to the rescue. If you conduct a survey among them on the topic: what talents and abilities do you see in me, you can learn a lot of new and unexpected things about yourself.

But your friends are also not the ultimate truth. For qualified help in this matter, you can go to a psychologist. Few do this, considering going to a specialist as a weakness and a sign that you yourself are not capable of anything. These are the prejudices of our society that need to be overcome. Going to a psychologist is not weakness, but taking responsibility for yourself, your actions and your future.

There is an option that will help you become your own psychologist. This is a test that you will need a pen, paper and all your attention to complete. Take a piece of paper and write down all your, even small and insignificant, abilities, skills and abilities. Try to remember as much as possible. On another piece of paper, write down all the activities that you enjoy. There should be a lot of them too.

Now start scratching out. Cross off the list of activities that you do only in a certain mood. Now the ones you like but don't want to do all the time.

It's time to compare what's left of the list of activities with your skills and abilities. Surely you will find that you have the ability to make your favorite occupation a profession and achieve success in it. If some qualities are lacking, they can be developed.

Capabilities
Opportunities are different for everyone and do not always depend on the personal qualities and talents of a person. Someone was born in a prosperous family, received an excellent education, and besides, he lives in a city where there is a huge choice of educational institutions and companies, where then it will be possible to apply the acquired knowledge for decent pay. Someone initially had nothing but the desire and perseverance to achieve their goals.

The result in both cases can be the same - favorite work, well-being and a successful personal life. Or maybe it’s different: someone achieved what they wanted, and someone was disappointed, spit on everything and goes with the flow. And it is not at all necessary that success accompanied the first option, and failure - the second.

And again wishes
Desire is the main driving force in choosing a life path. The first thing to do, as we have already found out, is to understand your true desires. And the second is to outline the path to their implementation. Once on this path and taking the first steps, you will realize that there are many resources and opportunities around you to achieve your plans.

You choose whether you want a calm measured life, or you are attracted by activity and movement, whether it is important for you to find your love or freedom - everything is yours. Do you want to break through to the heights of your career, or is moderate success in the profession enough for you? All in your hands.

Finding your path in life is half the battle. For the path to lead to the desired goal, it must be followed steadily, despite the various temptations and distractions. On the other hand, the goal is not the main thing. You have to learn to enjoy the process. Then the temptations are not so terrible. Sometimes you can get a little distracted from the main straight road, turn aside, take a walk, see and learn something new. Then with new forces to go on your way further.

Human life is not just a biological phenomenon. This is an individual socio-historical fact. Because every living being grows and develops, but only a person is formed as a person with his own worldview, values, claims and achievements, as well as direction. And, most importantly, with individual goals, plans, dreams and aspirations. Achieving and living them, a person goes his own way in this world. But not everyone has it that way. Some don't even know how to find their way in life. And exist aimlessly. This topic is often considered by psychologists who, with their advice and recommendations, can help people reach the goal of existence and find their way in life. This is what I would like to talk about.

Out of the way

First, I would like to note that human life is usually divided into five phases. The German psychologist Karl Buhler paid particular attention to this. And the first phase, which lasts up to 16-20 years, is outside the life path. Because this period precedes self-determination. Such a young person does not yet have the fullness of opportunities, profession and access to all chances to prove himself.

Second phase

It usually starts at 16-20 and lasts until 25-30. During this rather long period of youth, a person begins to try himself in various fields of activity, form bonds with other people, even look for a mate. At this stage, self-determination begins.

This is the assertion by the individual of individual positions in various situations, the formation of a worldview and values, as well as setting a benchmark for self-organization. Behind it, most often, there are hopes. Which in this case are associated with sketches of possible ways of life.

barriers

In the second stage, many face confusion, uncertainty, fear, and the unknown. Often, fears are associated with the fact that a person is aware of the responsibility that falls on his shoulders in connection with his life choice. After all, he himself determines acceptable social norms, dominant guidelines, the most important values, and much more. For many people, this period drags on so much that they completely lose the idea of how to find their way in life, and exist aimlessly day after day.

Problem of choice

If a person has been in a lost state for a long time and does not know why he wakes up every day, then you need to act. It's best to start by defining your path model.

"Life as creativity" - this option is suitable for people with a penchant for experimentation. Those individuals who like to experiment on their own destiny. Their life paths seem non-standard to people accustomed to the "ordinary" model. Which is called "life by the rules." This is the least successful model. Because a person who focuses on it follows the rules that are established by society, the authorities, and conventional norms. He lives according to the principle "the way it is customary", and not the way he wants. And when the feeling comes to him that he has wasted his years, it is too late. And the bitterness of regret at such moments is incredible.

For some, the option "life as an achievement" is suitable. Everyone who chooses it, acts as a person who "made himself." These are workaholics, pragmatists, careerists - all people who consider the time given to them as a valuable resource for the realization of as many goals as possible that can ensure a better life.

I would also like to pay attention to the model called “life against life”. The people who follow it are in a constant process of struggle. In a figurative sense of the word, of course. And most often the struggle is for social benefits.

listen to desires

This is the first thing a person needs to do if he is thinking about how to find the way to a new life. Desires are part of our nature. They are individual and changeable, everyone has their own. But they are all social in nature. And desires, thanks to the conscious activity of a person and his thinking, sooner or later are reborn into some kind of life goals. Which determine the meaning of existence.

A person will be able to determine the right path in life if he listens to himself. To what he wants. Strong desires always become goals, as they are a powerful stimulating energy for any human activity - be it creativity, business, or interpersonal relationships.

Absolutely every psychologist will tell his patient: "The path of your life is only your decision." And he will be right. Only man has the right to dispose of it. But still there are many practical recommendations that can help you deal with your aspirations and desires.

If a person really does not know what he wants, then he needs to expand the scope of knowledge and range of interests. How? You need to start trying something new, not previously known. Often the path of a person's life lies beyond his perception. And when he covers with his attention those areas that were previously closed to him, he seems to begin to see his existence from a different angle. There is an invaluable feeling of long-awaited certainty - a person finally finds what he has been looking for for a long time.

Also, psychologists recommend not to limit yourself. Some may think that effective work is only possible in one direction. Of course, there are goals that require "total immersion". But you do not need to spend all of yourself on its implementation. It is recommended to combine such a goal with others that take less effort and time. As a rule, they are perfectly combined and harmonized.

Focus on knowledge and opportunities

It will be easier for a person to find the beginning of a path in life if he analyzes himself as a source of useful resources for his passage. What can he do? What actions are you capable of? How far can one go in pursuit of the meaning of life? Abilities play an important role in the process of passing the life path. After all, they are properties of individuals that determine the successful implementation of a particular kind of activity.

Abilities are our internal mental regulators that determine the possibility of acquiring skills, abilities and knowledge. Some of them determine the success of education and training, as well as the formation of personal qualities. Others are responsible for the production of new ideas, discoveries. Abilities are the resources of a person, which he must use in order to achieve goals. Knowledge of their presence often helps to find the path of spiritual life. You just need to ask yourself one question: “What am I capable of?”, And give answers to it. Perhaps in one of them the meaning of life will be hidden.

About values

Surely every person, accepting congratulations in honor of this or that event, heard the following in his address: “I wish you to find your own path in life.” Indeed, many are able to say this, but not everyone is able to support a person's choice. Because the conflict of values has always been and will be the place to be.

And the path of life is determined by them. Because a person can find happiness only if there is something significant in his existence that can satisfy his diverse needs. And nothing else. A person for whom independence, absolute freedom and entertainment is of paramount importance will not be completely happy if he burdens himself with family, children and responsibility to them. And vice versa. The one who most of all dreams of a big friendly family will not find happiness if he disappears for days at work.

So what are we talking about? The fact that, determining his life path, a person should be guided not only by desires and opportunities, but also by values. They are part of his soul.

Forecasting

If a person does not know what he wants, and believes that he is in a hopeless situation, then this is not so. It just needs to be approached from a different angle. And answer yourself the following question: “What do I not want?” As a rule, people find answers to it faster.

They just need to be specific. It is clear that the majority will answer: "I do not want to live my years aimlessly." But what exactly is implied in this statement? Everyone has something of their own. Some do not want to be lonely in their old age. Others do not want to exist all their lives in the same city. For some, the worst fear is poverty and misery. Someone else is afraid to leave this world, leaving nothing behind.

There are thousands of options. But the essence is this: if there is not the slightest idea about your desires, then you need to start from the opposite.

Testing

It can really help some people who are confused about how to find their way in life. A test of this kind can be found in the public domain. It aims to study the needs of a person and his motivations. All he needs is to give answers to already prepared questions. There are usually options. So it remains only to note the most suitable and close to the person.

As an example, several questions from different blocks can be cited. The first is formulated as follows: “Time is money. We must strive to earn as much as possible.” The question from the second block is as follows: "Work is a forced vital necessity." Further, as a rule, there are questions aimed at identifying the factors that take the most time from a person, as well as determining predisposition to certain areas of activity. For all questions, by the way, the following answers are offered: “I agree with this”, “50 x 50” and “I don’t think so”.

Of course, after this, the truth about how to find your path in life will not be revealed to a person. The test, however, can be thought provoking. And the results will prompt the direction in which it would be worth starting to act.

Self-realization

How to find your path in life? You have to do what works best. Or something you've always wanted to try. At the same time, all doubts must be thrown aside. Many of them bury their dreams and desires precisely because of them. But in vain. What to lose? No wonder they say - it's better to do and regret than to regret not doing it. Even if it fails, the person will know that he has tried.

After all, it is very important to realize your potential. This is a basic need for every person. Even Abraham Harold Maslow included self-actualization in his famous pyramid of needs. And Aristotle said that happiness can only be achieved by realizing one's potentialities.

But for this, a person needs to get rid of the word “must”. Almost every second person will say: “Yes, I would like to do music / choreography / sports / art / tourism, but all my time is taken up by work. I need to earn money to live.” Yes, that's the reality. Need money. But changes in life are also necessary! You can find another job that takes less time. Or even start your own business. A job that does not bring joy and satisfaction is an excellent reason for dismissal and the subsequent formation of a business. And this, in turn, is not only a useful business and a personal source of income, but also a way of self-realization.

Awareness of freedom

That's what really matters. A person who thinks about how to find the right path in life must first understand that he is absolutely free. And free to do whatever he wants.

But many people in life follow anything but their desires. They listen to their parents, the media, they are guided by conditional generally accepted norms and laws, they exist in accordance with a banal model of life. As if they forget that only they and no one else are the masters of their lives.

But freedom is available to everyone. The right to it is enshrined even in the Constitution. Freedom is the ability of a person to live and act in accordance with personal goals and interests, guided by the knowledge of objective necessity. And in no case should we forget about it.

Rules to Remember

How to find the right path in life? You need to follow simple guidelines:

Remember that it's never too late to change your life for the better.
Don't forget that everyone has problems.
See failures and adversity as an opportunity to gain experience.
To regularly experience (provoke) new sensations.
Do what you love.
Forget yourself in the past and love your "I" in the present.
Pay attention to your skills, self-development and hobbies.
Set a goal and never give up.

And most importantly, remember that life is a series of efforts. Having found the goal, it will turn out to see the road. And this will put an end to wandering, will give strength for a confident move towards her.

The lack of a conscious path in life leads to many problems of the psychological and physical aspects. A person does not see a clear goal for realizing the potential and wastes it on trifles, losing.

Living with meaning is not an easy task. Each of us wondered: “Who am I? And where am I going?" When the answer is found, the person applies the maximum amount of strength in order to obtain the desired satisfaction as a result of actions. But what to do when time passes, and the path remains untraveled? Do you feel the meaninglessness of calendar days? Has the feeling of being lost and helpless already knocked on your doorstep?

In today's article we will talk about how to find your life path? How can you make your world rich, full and harmonious? After all, it is the meaningful implementation of actions into reality that gives people a chance.

causal thread

Before “treating” the problem, it is necessary to understand the reasons for the loss of reference points:

loss (loss of a loved one, job, status);
the imposition of someone else's opinion by close people (“You will not become an artist!”, “Be like EVERYONE”);
zone of personal restrictions (impossibility to change permanent residence, financial barriers, health, etc.);
comfort zone (everything suits me);
lack of values and the main goal (“I just live! I don’t strive for anything”);
a stunning success (oddly enough, mass recognition is dangerous depression, because it undermines the life guidelines that have served as pillars for many years);
self-doubt (the inability to believe that the desired will come true thanks to the efforts);
fear (capable of paralyzing any attempts to uphold beliefs, move towards a goal, or even expand your comfort zone).

This list can be continued indefinitely, because for each person of the Universe unique obstacles are prepared, overcoming which he becomes stronger and more resilient. Let me express my own opinion: I am convinced that a person who has not found himself in space will not be able to feel the life force at 100%!

She will be prone to depression, loss of strength, chronic fatigue, neuroses and other dangerous manifestations of the absence of a vocation in her soul. After all, when we find our own destiny, its support serves as a powerful motivator, a catalyst for happiness and satisfaction from our own efforts!

Self-realization point and rollback

When a person has not chosen the path of movement through life, the most common excuse is the phrase: "I'm still looking for myself." In this case, people are advised: “Remember what you liked as a child? What did you want?"

Indeed, at a young age, a child is not burdened by stereotypes about “normal work” and wants to become an astronaut! He doesn't know how "normal people" should live! At this moment, he is free, which means he feels his way, only to approach the solution of the issue rationally, experience does not yet allow.

Growing up, we strive to realize ambitions and aspirations through the prism of our own nature. We want to find a cell where there is contentment and happiness! This state is called the point of self-realization, in which the feeling of what is happening is marked by high productivity.

But it happens that a person does not understand that he is following the chosen route. Doubts begin to overcome him, and the difficulties that arise on the way turn into the opposite vector! This is how the process of choosing the side of "social normality" and the clichéd standards of society takes place. And the future astronaut often turns into a chair sales manager. What practices will help you get on the right path and stay on track?

Look for the essence!

Self-realization is impossible without productive contact with your inner "I"! In order to do this, it is necessary to push the tinsel aside, taking the time to analyze the current state. Familiarize yourself with the fundamental practice that exposes the essence of the depths of the soul. The answers to these questions will open your eyes to life and allow you to take from it what is rightfully yours:

"Who am I? And where is my place in the world? Everyone should know the answers to these questions! Understand what is your main function? Do you want to be a cog in the system, a teacher or a hard worker who does his job and gets paid at the end of the month? Or maybe you want to become an innovator or a pioneer? You choose!;
What is my mission? Destiny is what is destined for you before the birth of the physical shell at the spiritual level! Ask yourself what am I living for? Do you want to become a wonderful family man, raise children? Would you like to lead an empire or help people by founding a charitable foundation? Formulate the mission as accurately as possible, starting from the verbs create, create, create, help. Give an abstract idea a concrete edging!;
"What is my goal?" Perhaps this is the most important point. Understanding what result you want to achieve as a result of efforts, do you realize what you need for this? Often, goals are ambitious and will need to be specified. As soon as it is formulated, you will feel the vector of movement!;
"List of Values" In order not to be distracted from the route, a person must have an impressive list of values. These are personal, written truths that have been with you throughout your life or supplemented by the campaign. What are the main principles and ideas? What can you never do, and what can you not pass by?;
List of Talents and Skills. What do you manage to do well, and what is excellent and unsurpassed? Think about what actions you can take? With the right use of talents and skills, you realize yourself;
"List of Personal Characteristics". This paragraph is similar to the summary paragraphs. Only you really have to believe that you have unique personality traits! Responsibility, dedication, empathy, etc. can be an excellent foundation for implementation in the world!

It is worth noting that only a complete symbiosis of these elements will lead to spiritual harmony. Otherwise, the visualization of "Swan, pike and cancer" may turn out. Motivations that do not correlate with each other always lead to conflicts within the personality! Are there other ways to find your way?

Effective test and literature

To find zones for accurate self-realization, it is necessary to answer questions that are often ignored. People are looking for a way using different methods: they analyze factors by date of birth, unravel the secrets of the name, the signs of the Universe. I propose to pass a simple test designed to realize your true nature:

what do you like to do the most? (write out the points in a notebook, zooming out);
what would you do in your free time? (a hobby that brings satisfaction);
What are you interested in and what do you systematically focus on? (this could be an area of interest:
music, crop production, science, teaching);
what do you read or study? (visited sites, books, discussions);
where do you use creativity or creativity, showing yourself real? (if your job does not allow talent to circulate freely, then this is not your destiny) There is an interesting video on this topic!;

What actions benefit or delight other people? (ideally, the outside world should ask you to do what you like);
If you were not afraid of failure, what would you do with yourself? (not only money is important, but also contacts, connections, success, recognition, respect, etc. The main thing is to understand, are you doing what you hate only because you are afraid of condemnation or failure? Or is there another reason?);
What would you do if the money issue was settled forever? (Where do you see yourself? Who are you? And what makes you happy?).

Read the answers carefully and analyze the current state of affairs. Perhaps you do not have enough determination or faith that the desired path is very close? To minimize the pressure, I will share recommendations for books to read. Someone else's experience and advice perfectly help to see the problem from the outside and make sure that it is solvable!

"Life with a clean slate. How to find your way? - N. Kozlov;
"Vocation" - K. Robinson;
"Man brand" - T. Peters;
“Say YES to life” - V. Frankl.

On this point!

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